Wellness Positive

  Anger is generally considered a bad thing in 'civilized' societies, but what many people fail to recognize is that anger is an emotion developed over millennia - and it is a defense mechanism that MUST NOT always be ignored.. If you're feeling angry or frustrated, it can sometimes mean you're being imposed upon by someone, or not getting a 'fair deal'.

  Anger can guide you to the realization that your life may not be exactly on the path YOU would choose...

  Now I'm NOT saying you should just vent your anger on the people around you - but I AM saying that you shouldn't just unthinkingly suppress your anger without taking the time out to analyze it - trust me, the time you spend on learning what exactly is the TRUE CAUSE of your anger will be time WELL SPENT.

THE FIRST STAGE: BRINGING YOUR ANGER UNDER CONTROL

   The first stage is to bring your anger under control - that will allow you to examine it's cause logically. There are many different ways to 'let off steam' - you can go for a brisk run (an excellent method) or just go into a quiet corner and do a good meditation. Or you can go in for a light physical workout - even a simple one; just a few pushups, crunches and squats.

  Use whatever method works best for you, to control your anger, and THEN use your MIND to recognize the TRUTH, that there MAY be something in your life, or someone around you.. that is seriously frustrating and upsetting you..

THE SECOND STAGE: RECOGNIZING AND DEALING WITH THE ROOT CAUSE OF YOUR ANGER

  Now, once you have calmed your anger, go back to the thing that caused it in your mind and examine it objectively. If necessary, use deep meditation so that you DON'T look at it emotionally, but INTELLIGENTLY - if it's your workplace that is frustrating you, consider seriously if working there is how you'd like to spend this present portion of your life, or whether you'd rather be doing something different. If you'd rather be doing something different, try to think of ways to make it work out, to gradually shift into that other sphere of work.

  If it was a person you were angry with, consider if that person was the real cause of your anger, or whether you were just venting. If that person was the cause, consider in your mind, OBJECTIVELY, whether you were really in the right, or in the wrong.

  If you cannot 'get along' with someone, think of strategies to by-pass that. If you find that you were in the wrong in an argument, apologize to the person concerned.

  Learn to USE your anger - it is a tool, a potent tool, not a liability or a curse, but a great benefit - learn to analyze it, learn to recognize what your mind and body are trying to tell you through it, and then, coolly and logically.. ACT on it - don't just suppress it and 'bottle it up inside'.

  Don't vent on others, but use your anger as a tool to realize your own goals in life, your own desires, your aspirations, and how you can better relate to both yourself and the people around you.

"Let your anger be a thing that leads you into the positive, rather than into the negative. Trust me, it works."